I’ve been introverted and shy as long as I can remember. I remember hating public speaking and trembling the first time I had to give a presentation, but I’ve since learned a lot and grown from being a naturally quiet person. Being introverted is now something I embrace, and I no longer see it as being weak or something that holds me back. Here are some of the things I’ve learned through being an introvert.
Listening Is Key
I have definitely grown to be more of a listener than a talker. Learning to listen — and I mean truly listen — to what someone is saying has been such an important skill for me. It has given me the ability to have really great relationships to the people I am close to and learn to consider all options and points of view. I think this heightened my communication skills, even if I’m not always the one doing the talking, it has led me to have more meaningful conversations. I also really value other people being able to listen to me. Since I have a tendency to not talk that much, I really appreciate when people listen to me when I do.
It’s Okay To Be Alone
I am a SUPER independent person, and it stems a lot from being an introvert. I have learned to be comfortable with my own company and to not rely on others so much for entertainment/happiness. Of course I love spending time with my friends, but I also enjoy doing things alone and have learned that it is okay to do things alone. I’ve learned to not judge myself for always having a smaller group of friends and that there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. I don’t need a huge group of friends to show my worth, and this is definitely something I’ve learned to accept as I’ve gotten older. I really do cherish all of my friendships, and part of having a smaller group of friends is due to not hanging on to relationships that are toxic or fake. It’s okay to be picky with the people you surround yourself with!
You Can Be Confident and Introverted
Since being at college, I have realized so much of my self-worth and now consider myself a pretty confident person. My idea of confidence used to look like someone completely different from me, but I’ve learned that confidence can come in so many different forms and is different for everyone. To me, it’s about unapologetically being myself. I do things for me and make decisions that will make me happy, rather than worrying about what I can do to make other people happy. I always try to live a very authentic life; I wear what makes me feel confident, say what’s on my mind, take pride in my interests and opinions — all despite what other people might think. I’ve learned to not be hurt by other people’s judgement, and 99% of the time, people prefer to see the more authentic version of yourself. Learning that has given me a lot of confidence to proudly be myself.
Yes, You’re Just Overthinking
No, they don’t hate you. No, they don’t think you’re annoying. If you couldn’t tell by what I’ve written so far, I used to worry and care so much about what other people thought about me. Especially in high school, I felt almost ruled by other people’s opinions. At one point, it gave me so much anxiety that I constantly felt like I was walking around with a giant spotlight on me. I’ve since learned that no one really cares that much! I’ve stopped worrying about what people think about me once I realized that those opinions, negative or positive, truly had no effect on the kind of person I am. You’ve probably heard it before, but the quote “You can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches,” is so important. Things are almost always worse in my head than they actually are, and learning to let go of that fear has felt so empowering.
Learn From Yourself
I tend to spend a lot of time lost in my thoughts, but that’s not always a bad thing! I think self-reflection and meditation is something that everyone should do. Listen to yourself and figure out what you truly need. I love the power that self-reflection can have, and it has led me to manifest literally everything. Thinking and truly believing in something has not only done its wonders in manifestation — it has heightened my self-confidence. You can be your own best friend, so I try to treat myself the same way I would treat someone else. I’ve struggled a lot in the past with this, but self-love and self-acceptance are key to growth. Knowing myself fully and believing in my ideal future has brought me to the most incredible opportunities, along with sincere happiness and fulfillment.